My husband and I were not the ‘first’ for each other in many ways. The first kiss, date and even the first housemate belong to someone else. This can be a point of tension, knowing these firsts will never belong to you. But they don’t have to be.
Our solution to this was to create our own non-conventional firsts. Like: first Interracial relationship, first boat ride together (yet to happen), first time at a tourist destination, and first recreational activity (ours was Supa Golf!).
If you feel the ‘meaningful’ firsts have already been claimed by an ex, change the game and find other firsts to celebrate and remember.
My favourite ‘first’ is that I am the first girlfriend my husband took to his favourite place – a beautiful riverside called Matilda Bay.